“Fifty Shades Of Grey” has lots of people looking at their sexuality and lifestyle choices.
People are more curious and open minded about what the other side of vanilla sex looks and feels like. Vanilla sex being, the ordinary and common sexual experience.
The truth is, there’s a lot of contradictory and even outright false information floating around about the so called alternative sexual lifestyle.
So to enable you to find your way through the maze I have collated some of the terms that are used within the community of those engaged in the alternative lifestyle and explain what they mean.
There are different type of non-monogamous relationships and all come under the heading of Ethical Non-Monogamous relationships.
Read on to find out the six major categories of ethical non- monogamy.
Literally, this means, ‘to love many.’
It is common among partners involved in a polyamorous relationship prefer to live together and develop a deeper understanding.
A polyamorous household can be any arrangement – two men + one woman, a threesome, foursome and any other arrangement suitable among the partners.
Here it is common to be involved in sexual activities, but there is no plan to take the relationship to the next level
However, there are some people who are into a swinger lifestyle and are also in a relationship but still engage in swing parties just for the fun of it.
3. Open Relationship
This can be any form of arrangement depending on the agreement between the partners.
Usually, each partner is free to have sex with others or even have relationships with others. Again, the setup is determined by the partners involved. Hence, you will discover that there are some open relationships that are more like a swinger lifestyle, while there are some that are similar to polyamory.
This is an acronym of three phrases;
• Bondage and discipline
• Dominance and submission
• Sadism and masochism
Generally speaking, it can be defined as the sexual activities among partners using consensual power plays.
However, in the last few years, sex educators have been able to have a proper definition of BDSM.
One of these educators is Janet W. Hardy, and in her book, the new topping, she defined BDSM as, “an activity in which the participants eroticize sensations or emotions that would be unpleasant in a non-erotic context.”
This can be defined as getting involved in uncommon sexual positions and activities. There is no need to perform all the types of kinky moves you may have read or heard. You only need to pick the ones that are most suitable for you and your partner.
6. Every other category
The real truth is that there are other arrangements partners can set apart from the ones discussed above.
For example, poly-fidelity and swinging, kinky-BDSM
As communities evolve, alternative sexual lifestyles are becoming more and more acceptable.
The truth is that we all need to be true to ourselves and give ourselves the freedom to explore and practice our sexuality with passion and sense of adventures.
Come and join me on the other side of Vanilla, you might like it.