Glossary

AC/DC:
Bi-sexual person

Bareback:
The practice of having unsafe sex without a condom.

BBW
Big Beautiful Woman:
Women who are overweight or obese but who are comfortable in their bodies and feel sexually attractive – and are sexually attractive to many people.

BDSM:
Bondage, Discipline/Domination, Sadism, Masochism. When you see the letters D/s it refers to the dominant/submissive power dynamic.

Bi-selfish:
women rather than men who are happy to receive oral sex from someone of the same gender but would not want to give oral sex in return.

Consent:
The understanding that both parties need to be willing and consenting. To have conversations about exactly what you want to do and why.

Dogging:
Sex outside while watched (or joined by) others.

HWP:
Height and Weight Proportionate, in other words not overweight.

Kink:
sex that’s outside of the norm. It’s a term that encompasses many sexual preferences.

MILF:
Mother I’d Like To Fuck.

Monogamy:
the practice of marrying or state of being married to one person at a time.

NSFW:
Not Safe for Work.

Off-premises Club:
Swingers club where sex is not allowed in the club. The club will typically have a bar and a dance floor and will be for socialising and meeting new people.

On-premises Club:
Swingers club where sex is allowed in the club.

Pearl necklaces:
A sex act whereby semen is ejaculated onto a partner’s neck.

Poly:
Someone who identifies as ‘poly’ is referring to their polyamory lifestyle–in short people who have more than one partner, often a ‘primary’ partner and one or two or more lovers/romantic interests. The focus is on romantic love, not just having sex with lots of people!

Polyamory:
the practice of engaging in multiple sexual relationships with the consent of all the people involved.

Polygamy:
the practice or custom of having more than one wife or husband at the same time.

Sexual Agency:
the ability to make individual choices about the kind of sex you want, free of coercion.

Soft Swing:
Soft Swinging does not involve penetrative sex with another partner. Typically it will include touching, oral sex or two couples having full sex with their own partners in the same room.

Sub:
The one who is subservient or submissive to the dominant in a sexual power play.

Top:
To top refers to an act, or role, in power play where the Dom, or dominant partner, is taking the lead.

Vanilla:
The flip side of ‘Kink”–this is the straight up traditional approach to sex–missionary, lights out, conventional, etc.

VWE:
Very well endowed. Refers to a gentleman’s penis, usually one over 7″ in length.

420 Friendly:
being comfortable with using cannabis.